move 3 - decide - get in or get out
The middle always
carries a cost.
That is how you can be doing
everything right
and still not feel free.
The Impossible List · The Freakn' Middle
Strong, but not intimidating.
Ambitious, but selfless.
Polished, yet natural.
Smart, without outsmarting anyone.
Confident, while keeping quiet about it.
Sexy, but not sexual.
Maternal, and still killing it at work.
You did all of it. You did it well.
And you are still not feeling whole
FROM THE BOOK
Not fully in, not totally out. Spinning on the betrayal-reconciliation wheel like a hamster on overdrive.
The middle is not neutral. It is where your truth goes quiet. Where self-allowance drains possibility, and desires pile up behind a polished smile.
Staying stuck in the middle is not keeping you safe. It is stretching out the suffering. And somewhere underneath the loop, there is a voice. Not screaming, not spiraling. Just whispering.
That is the healthy part of you. The grounded self. The one that remembers who you are when everything else feels lost.
Trust it.
Whatever you decide,
make sure it is rooted in
self-loyalty
Not fear
Not guilt
Not habit
GET IN OR GET OUT BUT DON’T STAY IN THE FREAKN’ MIDDLE · Dr. Lia A. Roth
the POSITION axis - Get In or Get Out but dont stay in the freakn middle
Position · Consequence · Decision · Autonomy
The fear that has kept you still and stale is not fear of failure.
It is fear of failing others. But all this time, you have been failing yourself.
The people you are afraid of disappointing?
They are not living your life.
You are.
Chaos isn't the absence of order. It's the face of transformation.
So, you decide: in or out, but not in the freakn' middle.
Staying indecisive traps you in an endless loop of emotional turmoil,
where each high is shadowed by the fear of falling.
It is draining. It is disorienting. And it robs you of peace.
The role still works
BUT NOW, IT IS workING
against you
The Freakn’ Middle? The gap between what you can do and what you allow yourself to do — that is the freakn' middle. And the middle always carries a cost.
Binary Relationship Theory: Relationships organize around a third element: There is you, there is the other person, and there is the thing you are creating between you. A living, breathing force that pulses between you. When that third element collapses, everything turns into a contest. Dinner plans become a fight about respect. A tone becomes a threat. Nobody is talking about the actual thing, everyone is fighting for a position.
Autonomy: Staying connected to yourself while the field changes shape around you. It is the capacity to know and act from your own desire. It is not distance, independence, or becoming cold. It becomes possible only after you discover that the other exists outside your own meaning. When you can remain connected without losing yourself, your desire no longer has to travel through someone else. It can finally come from within.
shrink me? i am just waking up
EPisodes for this move
You made the call.
You rebuilt the structure.
Great!
Now comes the hard part: living from it.
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